Here is a brief refresher of Relevant's list:
1. Am I seeking approval?
2. Am I boasting?
3. Am I discontent?
4. Is this a moment to protect?
5. Is it kind?
This is a great, mostly all-encompassing list that covers the major ground of your average unproductive posts on social media, and this blog post is not meant to express any disapproval of it.
What I'm here to do is ADD to it. I understand why Relevant wanted to limit the list to 5, but there are a few more things that I believe need addressed.
6. Am I just complaining for the sake of it?
I'm a feminist and never like to pin things on my ladies, but this is primarily a female issue. If that boy was acting totally stupid and treated us bad, we complain about it publicly on social media. If we're pregnant and our back REALLY hurts and we have the worst headache ever, we complain publicly on social media. If our allergies just won't let up, if we had a dumb day at work, if our best friend ditched us for their boyfriend...you get the picture.
Ask yourself - does anyone *really* care about this? Am I the only one to have ever gone through this issue? Do I just want to let off steam, and if so, is this website the appropriate place to do it?
I doubt the answer will be positive, and immature complaints can be viewed very negatively by those who are going through something worse.
7. Is the timing of this post appropriate?
I'll use a personal example for this one. When my dad passed away, my dad's sister told a friend. That was fine until the friend immediately posted about his passing on facebook. This was within a few hours after his passing, and we hadn't yet informed a lot of relatives and close friends. I had to ask this person to take his post down and I spent the rest of the day monitoring social media to make sure nothing "leaked" before we could get the news out ourselves.
Being the first to "break a story" is generally only a good thing if you're a journalist. Thinking about who else is effected by your postings could be crucial, and maybe waiting a day or a week would be more appropriate.
There's my two cents...as if you asked for them!!